Honey's thread

[MJontheMend]

Have you been able to figure out why you still chose porn, even when you knew you were hurting your wife by rejecting her?

I can mentally understand why my H did what he did..for the reasons that he had..but I cannot comprehend why he continued to choose to do it, even though he knew it was hurting me.

I asked my H pointblank how he could possibly not know how important the issue was to me when I would be hysterically crying on occasion when he rejected me. He replied that there were things he didn't understand and there were also things he chose to ignore. I think what it came down to was I wasn't consistent enough in voicing my discontentment with the situation. I would be crying hysterically on Friday if he rejected me but I would be all hugs and smiles on Sunday if he finally got around to being sexual. I think this had a lot to do with my Type 7 tendency to always look on the bright side. I was dealing with the sex problem on a day to day basis and not figuring out how to treat it as a systematic problem. Now I don't get as hysterical when I'm rejected but I don't get as happy when I get laid either. I'm going to need to see some long term consistency and enthusiasm before Mr. W gets off probation.