Here's the answer to your question from ME1967's thread...
Quote: I have a question for you:
Do you still identify yourself as an LDH?
That is, if you were addicted to porn, and you stopped using it, would you still consider yourself LD or not?
Yes, I still consider myself LD. Through my C and much reading, I've learned that because of my CSA, even without the addictive/destructive behaviors, I still have a lot of mental issues that affect my ability to positively interact sexually. Now, here is where it starts to get hinky...the MB/porn had nothing to do with my R with my wife...it was my way of acting out against my abusers. When it was done...it was done...I shut the lid on THAT compartment of myself and moved on. BUT, latently it had the effect of making me not "need" the intimate interaction with my W. It was the perfect wet blanket to keep me from hurting the person I loved with S. Does that make sense? Probably not...I'm having trouble getting the right words here. So, I'll just stop.
To finish answer your question HP, my drive and desire for my W did increase GREATLY when I stopped the addictive behaviors.
