Yes, I'm definitely happy with them. I truly couldn't have done better if I'd have picked my parents personally. True they each have their foibles, and they don't communicate worth a squat...but hey! They're human...and due to their mistakes I'm learning too :-)
I've often had people ask if I want to find my biological parents....nope, I'm happy with what I have thank you very much! BTW...my Mom was also adopted, so it's sort of a tradition almost in our family....my H and I have considered adopting an older child too someday...possibly.
Quote: who feels like a 90 yo woman discussing health problems with the board
That's how you get to be 90 HP. The people who just put up with medical problems or don't get check ups die early.
Quote: When is your colonoscopy
HP right now I have to be careful how I sit, stand, or lay. When the back gets a little better then I have to ask for a colonoscopy schedule. My primary Dr. is being changed and everything has to be approved by a primary Dr. with the HMO like insurance plan I have. If I don't, all of the cost is out-of-pocket.
If I have injuries in a car accident and it's discovered I was not wearing my seat-belt, I have to pay 20% or 25% off the top of the bill plus the co-pay, and maybe another 20% to 40%. Regular payments are co-pay and 20% to 40% sometimes. The hospital about doubled their fees, so what I pay after insurance pays is about what they used to charge 5 years ago. The joys of being self employed and self insured.
Aw, Lou, I do hope your back feels better soon. Both H and I have had back problems from time to time and, boy, does it interrupt your life in every sense of the word. Have you been to a chiropractor?
One time HP. I think he put me over the edge and caused my disk to be damaged more than it was, which led to surgery. My first chiropractor experience was also my last.
When I described the chiropractor treatment to my nero-surgeon, he said the chiropractor did more damage. The chiropractor treatment was very, very rough and I since heard the guy was in Montana because he got run out of California. I have since heard of good chiropractors but have not gone to any.
Some of the physical therapy sessions have heat and stretching devices/sessions. They feel good and work well.
I see your post about doggie and other peoples favorite positions. I would not have guess women like such a variety and heard too many comments about being gentle so the woman got something out of the sexual encounter. WOW what a variety. Maybe I should be more agressive or intense? I liked the post (GEL?) about a guy having confidence to go after what he wants.
Anyway HP, do the tests so they can find out what is wrong. Somebody has to be having some fun.
I know you are sick of being poked and prodded, but if you're still not better at the end of this GI work-up, don't give up. You might need to take a break from doctors and tests, but I'd like to see you persist in getting an answer ( and solution) to your pain.
I am officially here to give you a kick on the butt ( not right now, but soon) to get help. Remember that the Gyn doc is looking for gyn causes, the GI doc is looking for GI causes...not a whole lot of thinking going on here. There are still stones to be unturned...I for one, would consider seeing a urologist, for example.
Anyway, glad the colonoscopy is off the list...I'm with ya, anesthesia is great! I'd look into taking a valium for the CT scan.
Yes, HP, you can request to be sedated for a CAT scan. Express your concern to your doc and request a script. I agree with many of the posters here, if the scan doesn't net results, don't give up. My prayers are with you.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
I haven't had a lot of time to post but I was anxiously awaiting your return to the BB and am so glad you're back online. I second what others say - that you should get to the bottom of this health issue.
My H tends to be anxious about medical tests. He has had both an MRI and a CAT scan. He said the CAT scan was much easier and less claustrophobic than the MRI - you would not be enclosed in a tube for a CAT scan. Because of what we had heard about MRIs I went with him. I held his ankle his (feet were the only parts of him sticking out of the tube) the whole time and that made him feel a lot more relaxed.
I don't think you would find a CAT scan so difficult but ask your Dr what to expect.
All the best! Doglover
There are many wise, empathetic and funny people here: you are my buddies - I'm grateful for your support.
First a sigh of relief on the colonoscopy. Then another good luck wish for the CAT scan. And finally, a little bit early happy birthday wish.
Re. adoption. If you remember, D13 was adopted from Romania just under a month before her 4th birthday. They gave us her correct birthday, but the wrong birthplace. The birth certificate they gave us was the new one showing us as the parents. It showed the place of birth being the city where the orphanage was located. Luckily, I can read some Romanian, so when they mistakenly gave us a copy of her original birth certicifate and a "home study" on her mother, I found out some interesting facts before they realized teh mistake and took them back. Chief among them was that she was actually born in a neighboring town.
I also found out that she has three half-siblings (all with different fathers) in the Romanian orphanage system. She's just started asking about her background the last year or so. It's been really hard knowing what to tell her. I really don't want to tell her about her mother, but I don't want to lie either. So far, we've told her that nobody knows where her father is (true), that her mother was a farm laborer (true) who lived in a hut out in a sunflower field and didn't even have a real address (true), and that she was too poor and was completely unable to care for a baby (also true). But so far, we've pretty much left it at that.
We've been back to Romania several times (6 for me, 2 for W) to do volunteer work in the orphanage where she lived, but she hasn’t been back. We’re planning another trip to Romania next summer, and we’ll take her with us this time. She wants to try to find her family, but I don’t have the slightest idea how to do that. Romania did only closed adoptions, so they’re not forthcoming with details about her origins. Then there’s the question of whether or not they want to hear from her. It’s kind of a sticky issue.
My MIL had an illegitimate child who she put up for adoption when she was a 19 year old college student. The interesting thing is the father of the child was African-American which was pretty unusual for circa 1960 rural Michigan. My MIL is very chatty and will talk about just about anything but this topic is never discussed. The only thing that reminds me that my H has a biological half-brother is the fact that my MIL is a huge fan of Denzel Washington and is always saying things like "I would pay to watch a commercial if it had Denzel in it.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: Then there’s the question of whether or not they want to hear from her.
Don't get hung up on that. The kid deserves to know where she came from. If birth mother doesn't want to maintain contact, that's her choice. Make sure your daughter understands that's a possibility. Even if your daughter decides not to pursue this now, please write down ALL the info you have so that she will have it as a resource in the future if she wants it.
I strongly urge anyone who has adopted, or is considering it, to talk to adoptees who DO search for their birth parents. There's a lot more to think about than the social workers will tell you.
Sorry for the hijack, HP. I was going to send wishes that you pass your next test, but what I really wish is that you flunk quickly, with a very simple, obvious, and fixable problem.
BTW...my Mom was also adopted, so it's sort of a tradition almost in our family....my H and I have considered adopting an older child too someday...possibly.