Hairy, No foolin about your daughter's bday! What a coincidence!
When you adopt a child, do you find out what their exact birthday is? Btw, last week in church I was sitting there and my mind started wandering, which is no reflection on our priest, he's excellent, lol. Anyway, I started piecing together some incidents that have happened to us lately and by the end of the wandering, I was convinced that we are being called to adopt a child. Now, I've ALWAYS wanted to adopt but haven't ever been able to talk H into it. When we got home, I told him about the events in our lives and asked him if he, too, thought it was mighty coincidental and he agreed that perhaps we were being sent a message of some sort. We don't have an extra penny to our names, but I'm going to look into an int'l adoption anyway. We have become friendly with a missionary priest who runs a charity agency in Thailand. D5 saves (some of) her cash and donates it to this agency and the priest wrote us a letter thanking us for it and acknowledging her extremely cute letters she includes with the money. He also told us a bit about the daily life there and so I'm going to contact him and ask what all is involved in adopting a child from the agency. I'm sure he will refer us on to some big red-tape filled organization, where we will go on a list and get scrutinized, etc, but it has been weighing on my mind for years now and I finally got the go ahead from H. He agreed that he would like to look into it. Hopefully this is not one of his "I'll say whatever I have to, in order to shut her up" moments. Anyhoo, happy birthday to Dsoon to be 4, and have fun with all the brats tomorrow.
Blind, Those thoughts have been on my mind a lot lately..what would I do if I could never have good sex again, etc. Boy it would really change my personality and our marriage, that's for sure. I have a hard time feeling close and "in love" with H, in the absence of ML. I would even go so far as to say that this is natural and normal and happens to ALL people, regardless of their desire level. There is no comparison to how a couple feels and reacts to each other after ML and when ML is a regular part of their lives. I think that LD folks may lull themselves into believing that living as "loving roommates" is the same as being "in love" but it really isn't. I hope that this is not my fate--I wouldn't do so hot at it. I simply don't feel like myself if we are not having sex. Having sex or wanting to have sex has always been part of my personality, since I hit puberty. To take that away would be the equivalent of me suddenly being short or blue eyed or a man or a water buffalo, for that matter.
