Honey's thread

[honeypot]

Annette and Doggielove,
My health is a little better. The pain is still there but at least I am no longer taking antibiotics for a phantom 'infection' right.

Thank you for the info on the colonoscopy. My husband will be with me, he took a vac day in order to be with me. I kept telling him that all I needed was someone to watch the kids and drive me home afterwards but he insisted on being there with me.
Yeah I'm not looking forward to the "prep" as they so clinically and cleanly call it. That is tomorrow and it is also a day in which I will be on a liquid diet...broth, jello, water, etc.
As I wrote on CN's thread, I have a good appetite and get verrrry cranky without sustenance so God help my kids and spouse for the next 2 days, lol!
Also I drink a TON of water and am not looking forward to being dehydrated on the day of the procedure. I am also nursing so my body will continue to make milk for the baby and dehydrate me even further. This last surgery was hellish in that I thought I was dying of thirst! I stayed up until midnight the day it happened, just drinking and drinking..

My H continues to work hard at overcoming his urge to push me away. Last night, he pushed me away in a nasty manner and I just walked away with no histrionics. He later came to me and apologized and was VERY attentive for the rest of the night. Since he had been so nice and wonderful for the past week, I found it very easy to forgive and forget. I did ask him how he would feel if I EVER pushed him away like he did to me, and he said "I wouldn't like it at all. "

Babypot needs me..take care all.

[GonnaGoBlind]

HoneyP,

I wish you only the best in your upcoming "probe". I hope they discover what is going on, and more importantly that it is nothing real serious and that can be fixed quickly. My prayers go out to you.

[honeypot]

I hate it when there is something enlightening going on in my life but...gasp...it involves ME and an aspect I need to change. I so prefer it the other way where I am sitting back, gazing at my H who obviously needs to change.

I just had a frustrating moment involving my children and the neighborhood kids, who are off school for some inexplicable reason. My H happened to call right after it was over and I kinda let loose with my frustration, on him. He stayed calm and kind, as he always does, and we carried on an okay conversation.

Then the lightbulb went off. I said, H!! Why did you call?
He said he was just wanting to hear my voice. I cringed and said, And all I did was holler and gripe about the kids...that is the equivalent of you pushing me away physically, when I do that. You're calling me, missing me and wanting to hear from me and I blast you as soon as I pick up the phone, don't I?
MrHP: Yes I guess it is the same thing. But I handle it better than you do..I realize what I've done and apologize.



This has been a good thing for me. I needed to hear that it affronts him, and sometimes offends him, when I unleash on him about what the kids are doing that is making me nutz. I will make this one of my new goals: to get a grip on myself when he is making contact throughout the day OR do not pick up the phone.

For the record, a neighbor boy had to "try" D3's new fishing pole that we gave to her approx 7pm last night and accidentally threw it (instead of casting it) and it landed in the street and shattered into a million pieces. As I was trying to put it back together, H called and I let him have it, instead of the neighbor kid.
All this and it was only 8:15 in the morning, lol!

Anyway, it looks like we both have a ways to go in overcoming our urges to push away.

HP

[Greeneyedlass]

Honeypot,

I think it's awesome that you had that lightbulb go off while you had your H on the phone so you could address it....that's great!!! To me that's a sign of someone who is becoming aware of themselves in the "now". It's hard to stop yourself in your tracks (especially when frustrated or angry) and let the other person know that you just realized what you were doing....it's a risky thing for us to do, because then, if the other person chose to...they could just let us have it! Your H didn't do that....KUDOS to both of you!!!

This is something I've worked on with my H.....the few times we've had a fight I've thrown him for a loop when I would apologize to him for something I had said that was wrong....even though we were still in the middle of the fight LOL. This is the visual equivalent to pushing him off of a rolling log LOL, it throws him that much off balance....but it also makes it hard for him to continue fighting with me....it really takes the wind out of his sails LOL. He still isn't able to grasp how I can be angry with him and apologize for something I did and acknowledge it was wrong of me.

We've honestly only had a couple of heated arguments....but during the last one I did that to him...because it did hit me that something I said was out of line later in the argument. He of course tried to throw up my comment later in the argument and at that point I apologized and acknowledged I was wrong for it....I almost laughed at the confused look on his face; I could see he wanted to continue fighting with me but he couldn't.

You should be very proud of your self Honeypot!!!
GEL

[cinemanymph]

GEL,
Some people never realize that they are doing something hurtful to someone else. If the error is pointed out the response is that the injured party is too sensitive or the "I was just kidding can't you take a joke" rational is evoked. It is an emotionally adept person who catches a hurtful action and takes prompt steps to repair damage done. Great HP !

[Greeneyedlass]

Cine,

That is Zactly my point!

GEL

[InherJourney]

Hiya HP... I had a colonoscopy a few yrs ago and it was no big deal. I was asleep the whole time...are they putting you out?

IHJ

[sat567]

Hey, HP. I thought you'd enjoy this:
A physician claims these are actual comments from his patients made while he was performing colonoscopies:

1. "Take it easy, Doc, you're boldly going where no man has gone before."

2. "Find Amelia Earhart yet?"

3. "Can you hear me NOW?"

4. "Oh boy, that was sphincterrific!"

5. "Are we there yet? Are we there yet? Are we there yet?"

6. "You know, in Arkansas, we're now legally married."

7. "Any sign of the trapped miners, Chief?"

8. "You put your left hand in, you take your left hand out. You do the Hokey Pokey ..."

9. "Hey! Now I know how a Muppet feels!"

10."If your hand doesn't fit, you must acquit!"

11. "Hey, Doc, let me know if you find my dignity."

12. "You used to be an executive at Enron, didn't you?"

13. "Could you write me a note for my husband, saying that my head is not, in fact, up there?"


Good luck to you!

Hairdog

[Greeneyedlass]

Hairdog those were hysterical!!!
GEL

[doglover]

HP (and GGB and HD),

There must be some kind of potty humor gene that you and Hairdog have been generously blessed with; your talent at coming up with ass puns is truly staggering!

My H is looking over my shoulder - this really his forte so I quote him:

"The 2 of you should start a movement"

But he "hopes that neither of you is a stool pigeon" (that one needs a little more context to fit in)

What can I say, my H cannot be de-turd from making puns.

Doglover