I think it's awesome that you had that lightbulb go off while you had your H on the phone so you could address it....that's great!!! To me that's a sign of someone who is becoming aware of themselves in the "now". It's hard to stop yourself in your tracks (especially when frustrated or angry) and let the other person know that you just realized what you were doing....it's a risky thing for us to do, because then, if the other person chose to...they could just let us have it! Your H didn't do that....KUDOS to both of you!!!
This is something I've worked on with my H.....the few times we've had a fight I've thrown him for a loop when I would apologize to him for something I had said that was wrong....even though we were still in the middle of the fight LOL. This is the visual equivalent to pushing him off of a rolling log LOL, it throws him that much off balance....but it also makes it hard for him to continue fighting with me....it really takes the wind out of his sails LOL. He still isn't able to grasp how I can be angry with him and apologize for something I did and acknowledge it was wrong of me.
We've honestly only had a couple of heated arguments....but during the last one I did that to him...because it did hit me that something I said was out of line later in the argument. He of course tried to throw up my comment later in the argument and at that point I apologized and acknowledged I was wrong for it....I almost laughed at the confused look on his face; I could see he wanted to continue fighting with me but he couldn't.
You should be very proud of your self Honeypot!!! GEL
