Friday night..had dinner with girlfriends at a new Japanese restaurant. Had fun. Found out from one of them that some species of plants in my house is bad "feng shui" which creates "women luck for men". So, Saturday, after my yoga, spent about 3 hours getting rid of all these plants in my little garden. In the evening, went to friend's house for her baby's one month celebration. Told my girlfriend about H's A. She was flabbergasted, cause she thought we were the "MODEL COUPLE". Yeah, right!
Sunday, took boys to the mall. Was there from like 9.40 am. Hung out at the mall till 5 pm. H called about 1.30 pm, said he just arrived home and asked if I was gonna bring S8 back home so that he can bring him out to buy a memory card for his playstation. BUT he would have to go to the office. I said "S8 can't go up to the tower". H said "Oh! It's okay, I will leave him with the security at ground level". I'm like "no way you gonna leave my son with some stranger. Beside you won't even know how long you will be at the office. AND, H also said that he would be playing golf at 5 pm. I was like "why would I want to rush back home from the mall, and then let you be the "father" on fathers' day, and then you gonna go off for your golf? So, we continued our time at the mall. Bought some hair clips for myself. Bought H a shirt for Fathers' Day (yeap..last minute), and kids had fun in a play area and also took part in Disney's Art Attack craft...they got some gifts for taking part. I sent him a message on his mobile and said that since he was gonna play golf, I'll make my own dinner plans. H immediately called me back and said "Oh..I cancelled golf. Let's have dinner". So, we did have dinner...and did some grocery shopping with H and the boys. It was the first "shopping" episode for a looooong time. After that, H says he has to give his friend some stuff and left the house at about 9 pm. He only returned at 11 pm. Who knows where he actually went? I didn't ask, and when funny thoughts popped into my head, I visualise the BIG RED STOP SIGN. I was already dozing off when he came back.
This morning (Monday 20/6) had my matching underwear while we were getting ready for work. H commented how come it took me sooo long to get ready. And then said "I don't supposed you want to give me a BJ now?". I replied "Of course not!"...we were already running late for work and boys' school. Anyway, here I am at work...will see what happens tonight!
Hey Anna123 - How ya doing? Agree with you that this sitch has made me closer to my mom. She has been there listening to me everyday...
Think H cancelled golf because of guilt? He hasn't seen his kids for a few days, and it WAS Fathers' Day! and perhaps he felt that he needed to do some fatherly stuff to warrant the greeting?? Perhaps as a face-saving thing, he said he was tired.
Anyway, the plant is called "Money Plant" over here. It is some kind of ivy. It is very easy to take care, propagates like crazy. All you have to to and cut a small leave and stick it in some water, and it grows and grows. Apparently, ivys or any climbing/crawling type of plants are NO good. It creates back-stabbing and bickering if they are in the offices. And in the home, it creates "women luck for men". So, I've gotten every single leave of this plant from my house...and now I need to replace the void with some other plants.... (oh Prickly type of plants are no good too...but not too sure in what aspects)
Who knows? But if he was very motivated by guilt he'd be giving up a lot more than golf (ie OW)! So I imagine there's got to be a fairly substantial desire to be there. Cuz WAS don't do much of anything that they don't want to do. Be glad he was there... it was a happy ending to the day!
GO YOYO - Fantastic to see your situation is improving. Like they say Baby Steps but it really has changed alot. He is sure showing some positive signs. Good on you keep Dbing it is working for the moment. Slowly Slowly.... Good resistance by you with the BJ It is so good to see things changing for you a bit....Kim
Ha ha ha...I won't exactly call it a resistance. It's just that there wasn't enough time. LOL
I do hope that they are TRUE positives, and not funny, unexplained actions that extra-terrestrials do (seeing that their brains have abducted by aliens and replaced with some MUSH)...in a nice way, yesterday evening before we went out for Fathers' Day Dinner, he asked me "what's wrong", which I replied "nothing" and continued with watching tv. He put his head on my belly and laid there for sometime. He was fiddling with his mobile phone, and thereafter sort of fell asleep on my belly. It was kinda nice, I have to say. This was the closest thing that happened...(we have not been intimate in this sense for a long time. ML does not count..cause that's more lust than emotional....)
Yoyo you make me laugh. You have the ML all worked out you do. LOL. There might not have been time but I would not have been able to resist Anyway you do seem to be making headway and for one moment I do not think it is funny just things you say. The fact that he had dinner with your family is a real good sign and your intimacy on the couch watching T.V. is another good sign Just keep DBing and keeping it all together like you are and it can only get better. Don't backslide and if he does something to pi$$ you off make sure you think b4 you act so that you use all your knowledge of DB and put it to use instead of doing something or saying something you will regret. I don't want to see you react the wrong way like I did. Go for it Yoyo it all looks good at the moment.
Last night...H said that he was leaving the office already. And that was 8 pm. At about 9.15 pm, he called and said that he just left, and that he was going out to have a bite with X (female colleague from office), and then he'll be back. I have to admit a terrible thought did cross my mind. Is it really X that he is with or is it the OW?? H only got back at about 10.15 pm...Remembering DBing, I didn't query him about his dinner with X (or was it OW?)...but he did seemed rather cheery when he got back. Asked me "Are you waiting for me to come home for ML?" I was watching telly at that time, and answered with a quick NO... He had his shower, read his book while drinking some soup that I had left him. We got into bed after my movie ended....and he offered himself for . Couldn't resist...and we did it. As usual, immediately after ML, he went off to look for more food in the kitchen. He came back with a toasted cheese sandwich and some fruit. He chatted with me while he ate. Told me about his training session in the day,...the trainer was one hot chick, and he and his colleague was sending messages to each other commenting on the hot chick, and how they were undressing her mentally... (This is a glimpse of my old H. He always tells me about any hot chicks that he has seen...) I listened and grinned at such remarks, as usual. And then talked about his other colleagues blah blah blah. Then there was this lady, and I was wondering who she was and he said "she is you-know-who's boss. You don't want me to mention her name, right". I kept quiet...knowing that he meant that this lady was OW's boss. There was silence a few seconds, then I piped up and commented about something on another colleague of his...and our conversation continued on other things...A small boo-boo on my part. I told him what S5 said, which was "I want a little brother and a little sister". This made H very very uneasy as he was very very quiet. I kept really really quiet after that. Later, he mentioned that he would be late today as he would be going out with another colleague.
He has ok-ed a dinner do with our mutual friends for his birthday. So, I am organising that.
Other mini-goal, a small dinner with his mom on his actual birthday. This one...I don't know if he will ok it or not...as he has not spoken to his mom for ages...She is still upset with him. Will see...
Going well YOYO....Keep it up, I know it can't be easy when he mentions going out with colleagues, but what can you do??? I am really pleased to see you are not taking the bait on anything so well done. I applaud you. Keep it up....
I replied "Of course not!"...we were already running late for work and boys' school. Anyway, here I am at work...will see what happens tonight!
It is so good to see things changing for you a bit....Kim 
