That's why I got my tattoo on the small of my back. I figure, surely THAT won't sag?
I agree about the fascination with other people's marital woes. I thought I didn't know anyone until I "came out of the closet" about it. Now i hear tons of stories. And I (immaturely) rank them next to mine. "Oh, mine's not THAT bad!" or "Wow - that's EASY to fix. What's their problem?" or "That's so typical" Constantly wondering if people are better or worse. Because that's such a reliable yardstick!
Hey Anna and YoYo - I too am H@rny for my H. Everytime I look at him I get that usual ache so i know exactly where you are coming from. We sound like a bunch of desperates but then we are (desperate for our H's). Yoyo sounds like you did some great work and O.K. things aren't as great now as when you were at the beach but hey they are still better than they were a little while ago. I think and I know it's hard you have to stop biting when he says things to you. Either just ignore him or agree you know it all so I am not telling you anything you don't know just reminding you of it. Will keep watching what is happening with you and I will be waiting for the next up in your sitch. Take care....Kim Oh and I am from Melbourne in answer to your question on my thread.
Eversince ignoring H's comments and remarks, I find that I don't get affected by anything....So, more calm sea.
Small baby step...H had dinner at my parents' house last night. Sisters and parents treated him as normal. Don't think he felt uneasy...I think... Conversations were normal, which he did participate...so, small baby step into the light!!
Sounds like your H is coming around, slowly. Glad to see you don't let his strange comments get to you. I've been in the same boat this last week...with the strange comments from H, and I've also been able to block them out or not let them affect me ( but they do peak my curiosity ).
He's been spitting the comments out ever since Monday...the day i started being casual around him ( and still am ). No more anger, silence...nothing, and now i get these strange comments:
Monday he tells me about his weekend and says he was thinking about me a lot, so much so he had to do damage control with OW. He called her by my name TWICE. ( no reaction from me...except a funny smirk saying "and how did that go over? "). It sounded like she was upset.
Then in same convo...tells me about another foreigner that he knows, or is pretty sure, that is fooling around on his wife ( like I need to hear this story from my H ).
Then last night he asks if I got my letter from an old boyfriend ( parents said a letter showed up, after 7 years of not talking to this ex, they were supposed to forward it to me, but haven't yet ). After I tell H i didn't get it, he asks if I still have feelings for old boyfriend. Jealousy? curiosity?
then H asks if I've talked to my parents lately, and what about. this is odd because 2 weeks ago he said he never wanted me to bring up my parents to him again, but this is 2nd time HE has asked about them.
More details are on my thread. In the past I've gotten the same ones as you, before or after I ML with H...this doesn't change anything, I don't want to confuse you,...blah, blah.
Somedays i feel like telling my H about this BB...so he can see that he's not the only one acting this way. And that what he's spitting out of his mouth is word for word the same as so many WAS's. That he can read DB and see that the grass is never greener on the other side, that you can change, that we can fix our problems. But I don't think I ever will...it's my place to vent and DB is more for me.
Keep ignoring the comments...it seems to have been working for me too take care glj
Hey glj! Perhaps your H is slowly realising that he is gonna have a son in the next few days, and he is seeing the picture of a happy family with both parents and a baby.. Yes, I think he is a wee bit jealous about your ex. Sometimes they think that you will be there waiting for him forever. Reality strikes them and they think "Hey, my wife is kinda attractive and other men are interested too", and then they get a little protective and defensive like "Hey...she is my property. I have her. You fellas don't" mentality.
Agree with you that there are a lot of similarities between the WAS attitude, and the things they say.
I really hope that's the case...H picturing having a family. Just not sure because he's still seeing OW almost everyday and still sending the lovey-dovey texts to her.
As someone responded on my thread...( especially because i'm pregnant and kinda stuck for the moment ) my H can get away with knowing that I'm nearby, accessable. But as the delivery creeps up I think it is dawning on him that soon I won't be pregnant, will look good again, and not feel so stuck anymore.
H always hated that guys hit on me, even when they knew I was married, or even when my H was out with me at the same place. I always get along better with guys too, so it makes my H insecure ( well he gets along better with women, never made me feel insecure...but now after the cheating, i don't know how I could ever trust him again if we did work things out ).
I talked to my mom last night and she said I got ANOTHER letter from ex-boyfriend. So she's going to send me both of them. Would LOVE to tell H now that there is a second letter, but won't...he'll see for himself when they get here. When I mentioned a few weeks ago the first letter to my H, he even said " Are you trying to make me feel insecure?"...so I don't need to guesss that he is, he actually IS. And I know it will be hard for him to see me go out ( looking hot and sexy ) after the baby while he stays home with the baby. I'm going to make a point of coming home in the wee hours...like he has been now for months. and I know he will just grill me for info...he's already doing it. I just need to be better at not telling him everything.
Our H's are such hypocrates... they can go shag OW and we have to be fine with it...but when the tables are turned they get all jealous and nosy. OOOOoooo I'm gonna have fun these next 2 months making my H squirm....can't wait!
but first the delivery to contend with...due sunday but haven't had any signs of contractions, so who knows when it will happen
Hey glj - Don't worry...I am sure you are gonna be one sexy MAMA!! Especially with breastfeeding...I am sure you gonna have very yummy upper body parts. LOL Your H may not be able to get his eyes off those!! LOL..
Journalling.... Nothing much happening..H went interstate this morning. Had to wake up at 6.00 am to take him to the airport. Not much conversation in the car. Last night...nothing happening too. He went off to see his sister for a few hours...came back home, showered and read his book. Not much conversation too... So, no nonsense from him...since no conversation. No..not cold shoulder. We were both tired, I guessed. this morning? I was singing my favorite song throughout the whole journey...
Next mini-goal; for him to attend my friend's baby get-together tomorrow night!
Sadly, never needed the extra help with the upper body..I'm thin and have these boobs out of nowhere. Now they're pretty big and praying they don't get any bigger with the breast feeding. I know...fat chance of that happening.( H always said I should look into breast reduction...afraid they will get out of control like my mother's ).
But regardless, he still looks and enjoys my bossom buddies...what man honestly doesn't?? h always says he's a leg man...and I've got those too ( not gained any weight there ). So put on some heels, show some cleavage...and then walk out the door...leave him guessing WHO I'm trying to look good for!
H just IMed me. Mini-goal not achievable. He says he will be playing golf with his pals, and will not fly back till late tomorrow night...or even Sunday morning. So, there goes my mini-goal flying out the window.
Positives: 1) He IMed me first 2) No R talk. 3) H talked about friends and his work (his sales figures, his boss, ...) 4) Talk filled with humour
