YoYo Girl - Keep doing what you are doing and at least he has agreed to the holiday. All I can say is that each time you have contact with him act "as if". Act happy as though you really are enjoying yourself do some stuff with people he doesnt know and dont always tell him who you are doing it with. Let him be the one guessing where you are and who you are with it really gets them curious. As long as they think you are there for them whenever they want(which we are we just dont let them know it) they will not worry about us but when they think that we are o.k without them it seems to change them. I know it is hard but it is working for me. I just dangle the bait in really subtle ways and wait for him to bite he is starting to and now I have to just reel him in very very slowly, so he doesnt get away. I know it sounds like a game and in a way it is but one I intend on winning. Who knows you can only try and by having a good time without them if it doesnt work at least you may feel comfortable with yourself. Good luck and I will watch your posts....Kim....
