That's a good point. I know how vulnerable and resentful and judged I have felt in the company of his family, and I'm the 'victim'. I cannot imagine how deep his shame runs, and he knows that my family has been intimately acquainted with all the details. It's a big hurdle. One he put up himself, but I guess that's irrelevant at this point.
My family has communicated through me and through his parents that they are willing to forgive and are not interested in confrontations. But he's still terrified. Especially of my brother, the former pro-football player.
Is there any other way to reassure him that he won't live in judgement?
