I'm already at that stage with throwing in the towel. Last night H and I were text messaging and I pretty much told him I don't care anymore (it's on my thread... the whole texting convo: New thread: My H is talking Separation )
As for when family gets involved...I kept all the info from my parents for one month, just said my H was asking for a separation. When I reached my breaking point, a week before I left for Canada, I called them and told them everything...current OW and past one night stands.
Needless to say they were upset that i kept this from them and bottled up inside. My mother after that didn't necessarily write-off my H, but my father did. As the weeks progressed, and my folks fed off my emotions, they were hopeful when i was, upset when i was, etc.
I think having my family in the 'know' has definately made things worse if H and I were ever to get back together. I think it's one of the reasons why he doesn't want to work things out, and never wants me to bring up my parents to him again. OW is the easier choice for him now...a clean slate.
As someone once told me...once u open the toothpaste cap and squeeze out the toothpaste, u can't squeeze it back in . That's the hard part of having friends and family know your sitch... u could forgive and take back your H, but friends and family may never like him again.
If u think there is a chance still for u and your H, then I probably wouldn't tell your dad. My H was angry when I told him things my dad said about our sitch... I said "what did u expect...I'm his daughter"
In a way I wish this baby was a girl. Then I could ask my H how he would feel if a man did this to her one day. But it's a boy, and I asked him a month ago what kind of ethics and morals could we even teach this child? H's response, teach him to be himself ( as my H says he's doing now...being himself, true to himself and his feelings ). True to his feelings?? Feelings that change every day??
All our situations are messy, yet we need support from family and friends... it was a really tough call when it came down to telling anyone what is going on.
