Quote: Really have to stop the R talks. How do I stop it when he keeps bringing it up???
What worked for me last time was when he started to bring up the R, I said gently "We don't have to keep doing this". He said that he felt like we ought to. I said "Unless either of us has anything new to say, why keep hurting each other?"
One of the biggest problems with R talks is that we are just repeating the same things over and over. Oh, we might have new analogies or examples to back up our argument, but it really all comes down to the same old stuff. So what's the point of rehashing every few days? Or weeks?
If neither of you has anything new to say, then what's the point? And if he has something new to say (I can almost guarantee that we LBS have nothing new cuz we've all talked ourselves hoarse) then keep it short, information-based and non-emotional. Validate, be interested and agree. Thank him for sharing and then move on.
