glj - Nice name for your little boy! Mmmm...would be interesting to find out what your H would say when he finds out the last name bit. Do keep us informed!
Anna - I think your H may say that. But I don't think he actually feels/thinks that way. Sometimes, we as humans always say the opposite things. I am sure if you actually starts seeing a man (as a friend, not the revenge affair stuff, because if you are not really up to it, and just doing it out of spite, you will feel like sh#t and may not be able to live with yourself ever...SO, don't do it unless you really can handle it), then you will see his colour change. I think he feels that you LOVE his so much that you will always reserve your heart for him, and not look at another guy. Test it out...and tell us about it!