Anna - About the monk thing...when we chatting last night (I was half-asleep by the way), he said he was only joking, and he didn't mean that he was gonna bring her. He said "I said bring a partner..I didn't say I would bring OW". Well, it's true. He did say "partner". I was the one that ASSumed and put OW into the "partner" position. I have to say that his jokes ARE NOT funny. I don't know if it's because he is stressed at work and also coupled with the break-up that he is trying to hide behind all these nonsense talk!!??!! Don't think he is that disengaged from reality. Still realised that he needs to go to work and earn the bacon. In his tipsy-ness yesterday, he did managed to put money to pay for the mortgage (got all the 10 digits correct); and did give me some other $$ to pay for my car loan etc.
He has also mentioned that he should try to look for an alternative job. One - to get away from her?? Two - to protect her reputation?? I really don't know what's going in his mind.
As SherryL mentioned, I should give him LOTS of space, and only ask questions when he seems okay with it..Questions not relating to OW or our R, but about his day. But it is rather difficult if he keeps mentioning OW's name.
Anyway, as I said, am quite numb already to all his nonsense. Am taking what he says with a pinch of salt. Not believing them totally....just maybe 20% as opposed to the normal 50% ?
We (my family, his mom, boys and I) will be going on a musical about "Oliver Twist" this weekend. Have informed him about that already, and told him that he does have a ticket. But it is okay if he doesn't want to join. So far, he has not said if he will or will not go. Ditto with our beach holiday on the 9th June. Even if he declines to go, I will still proceed to go with my two boys. (Yup..am abit sore about the lost $$ on his ticket but can't help it...had to keep it in case he wants to join....it's really his call).
