I'm glad that you have the support of both families. I never met my H's mother, she died a year into our relationship. His father I've met several times ( never married his mother and left her pregnant...hmmm ) and I like him a lot and he likes me. I don't think he knows our sitch. He lives on an acreage in the states with no phone, just writes a few letters here and there. Before I left for Canada my H had a letter written out for him saying we were having problems, don't know if H sent it, and don't know if H modified it by saying 'exactly' what he's been doing..ie cheating. A part of me wants to write him to tell him myself, but it's not my place I guess. Would surely piss off H.
As for OW, if H did drop her, she'd still be around. She started working out at the same gym as him when this all started. Plus, there are the regular hang outs where all the foreigners gather here so I'm sure he'd run into her a lot, as would I. I know when my H was thinking of calling things off with her he still wanted to be 'friends' with her. Completely unacceptable in my book. My H really doesn't know how women think, does he? She's already lost all her friends over this and now all she has is him...and if he ever broke it off I think she would go psycho ( her ex-friends told me she has a lot of issues she's been avoiding ).
I can't help but think my H is a manipulator. He told her not to cave to what her friends were saying. Hmmm...What did her friends have to gain by telling her this is not right, nothing...they were just concerned for their friend. What did my H have to gain... everything by isolating her and getting the nookie and attention he wants from her. He preyed on her loneliness here, and she was an opportunist as well, because they started off as friends and then she jumped on the info he confided to her. God, I almost sound like I'm sorry for her... the day will come when it all crumbles down and that is her problem then, not mine.
I believed that despite our R problems we could work things out...so much harder when there is a third party involved.
In the meantime just waiting for this baby to pop out ( due June 19th ) but doc says usually babies are early... 38th, 39th week. Then at least I'll have the baby to focus on, get back in shape, and finally be able to go out on the town for the first time in 9 months...can't wait.
