It's quite normal to be all over the map with your feelings after finding out about an affair. A good book is "After the Affair" -- it may help you realize the normalcy of the feelings you're experiencing.
Have you read "Divorce Remedy" yet? That's a good place to start to get you on the DB wagon.
You mention job stress for h...that can be a big factor. What about your M? What would you say h's concerns are about it? Tell us more about the four of you!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
