I have been married for almost 9 years (together for almost 18). Found out H was having an affair about a month ago. Am so confused with my feelings. One day, I am so angry that I want to throw him out..Another, I am calm, another am hurting as hell. H told me that he is "in love" with OW, whom he met about 7 months ago, and sees only about once a month as she lives in another state. H says he is "stressed" at work and is confused, and needs two months to decide what he wants to do. We have two kids, 7 1/2 and 5 years, whom H says he adores and is convinced that even if he leaves the family, all will continue to be "hunky-dory" for the kids still....
