I can't tell you how much your replies have meant to me. I can't believe that it's taken me so long to get back to you but I've been pulling all-nighters at work to try and get this proposal out - still working but wanted to check in with you. H is still around - staying away from the house as much as possible but still sleeping here for the most part but no packing whatsoever - ??? He has been so solicitous over the past few days as this work stuff has gotten crazy...I think he's trying to show me how much of a good friend and "buddy" he could be...and I still just want my husband and can't deal with having an ole pal around instead - that's not very DB, is it? Maybe it is best that he's waiting to start moving, because instead of the one-quarter speed I've been working at I might have been catatonic and really not been able to do anything on this proposal...I don't know - I am so confused - but at least with this project I haven't been able to cry my guts out much lately....thank you so much for your support -