So he said on Saturday that he decided he needs to move on. I know this isn't DB, but I then asked him to do it within the next two weeks - he is killing me (with the "hope, not the despair"). Thought I'd be relieved to know a direction but of course I'm not.
Here's where I need help - how do I deal with the moving out? It will take him forever - there's probably no way he can do it within two weeks - has rooms and rooms of books (he's an academic of sorts). I think he was hoping that he could just stay here until the fall when he could move into university housing, because it doesn't seem like he's made any arrangements at all, even knowing that he was going to tell me he decided to leave this past weekend. He seems adamant that he's not moving in with OW and her kids - but I shouldn't care anyway, right? I'm trying not to focus on that.
I'm dreading the first moment I walk in the door and see the boxes. And, no, I have no money to temporarily move somewhere myself, no local friends I can stay with, no options for going on vacation during this time - in fact, I have some major deadlines coming up at work, along with a performance review and I'm barely scraping by on my job as it is - and now I really need it, of course. Blessedly (in some ways, I suppose), we don't have kids (just a very confused and hurting dog) so at least don't have to deal with anyone but me going through this experience.
How do I prepare myself? What can I do to get through it? And do I tell people at work? I'm coming off yet another bad review from last year, when my mother got ill and died and I've never caught up from losing almost six months of productivity then...
God I hoped I wouldn't end up on this part of the board (join the crowd, huh?). But now I'm here I have so many questions and need so much support - please forgive me in advance for my neediness (this is SO hard for me - I am NOT a needy person!). Anyway - thank you...
