t-bone, just make sure you handle this the right way...I hope she realizes what she could lose, and yes, her family is a great deal to sacrifice. It all depends on what she cherishes the most and if she is capable of wanting with her life. My ex-bf was divorced and we had a very serious R for almost a year. In fact, a great R...he had a horrible divorce, custody battle, etc. And she kicked him out several times before also before the divorce. He tried to reconcile the last time, but she would not hear of it. As long as he was begging and miserable, she did not want any part of him. Once he found me, within months she was suicideal, harrassing both of us, and he went back to her. Just to tell you briefly, I did not hear anything for 2.5 years. But during that time, they did ok for a couple of months, and after that, he said that every couple of weeks she would find a reason to kick him out again. Finally in the end, he found out she was doing the same things, other men, etc., and he moved out another final time in December of last year. The point here is to make sure you keep living your life and not making her the center point...make sure she wants you back for the right reasons, not because someone else wants you or for financial reasons. I find that almost all of the time going back out of jealosy rarely ever works in the LONG run. They have to want the R and the family to stay in tact. Keep your eyes open and don't do like my ex did...he cut off his family and only focused on her and their child, basically had no life...again. And I seriously doubt at this point she will want him back because he is so screwed up by this never ending cycle (24 years of marriage and many years of going back and forth). It is really sad, but he is quite depressed now and I cannot see him. So hopefully she knows what she stands to lose and is working on getting her true priorities straight. My ex-bf's ex-w, at the age of 51, will probably not do that. Their history is too bad and she continues to show that she wants to do what she wants no matter who it hurts. Not a good way to spend your life. So take care, take your time in this and don't jump too quickly. If you are meant to be, it will happen...but with work on BOTH parts. You sound like a great husband and father and hopefully she will come to realize that and cherish it. Sorry for the depressing story about my ex-bf, but it is the truth and something to learn from.
