akron, sometimes, after enough drama has happened, it all boils down to making a choice, whether we LBS want back or not. Most LBS will return to the WAS. Problem is that it usually happens too soon, or the WAS still doesn't know what they want...cake eaters go back and forth thinking that they still have a good hold on the LBS and they are usually right. Hey, me included...I'm not saying anything that I haven't done myself, but the truth is the truth. If a LBS can step back long enough without getting sucked back into the drama, then there is a chance of it working out. But as someone on here said before, reconcillation is not the end of the sitch...sometimes it is just the beginning. The end is a loving, mutually respectful R that both parties put full effort into. My ex-bf went back to his ex-w (they were divorced) and the exact thing happened that they had split up twice before. Now he is seriously depressed, worse than before, for falling for it again. So sincerety, remorse, and lots of time and effort are the key here...and it still sometimes doesn't work out. Taking a back seat helps us all get our own selves together and learn to move on, with or without the WAS. I say let them play out their drama on their own, that is the only way you can make it with your head screwed on straight. It is a long, tough road either way.
