Your points are very valid. Bitter? Yes Resentful? Yes That is something I have been working on. I do realize that my FF only know my side of the story but I have been extremely objective and have taken responsibility for my actions as well. I fully realize that my FF have a distinct advantage over my W if I were to "compare".
I am in a very bad sitch that I don't know how to fix. My heart can't take being a doormat any longer but that is all I can do to stay in it. I'm between a rock and a hard place. The D is pretty imminent. My W has told me countless times that we will never work and all the reasons why. I guess she finally broke me of my optimism. I feel like a may be to the point that I feel my R energy would be better spent elsewhere.