I have been skimming your recent posts and you sound bitter and resentful. It sounds to me like you made changes with the expectation that your wife would too. Unfortunatley it doesn't look like that is going to happen anytime soon. Don't get me wrong, you have been doing this a long time and I am not in anyway saying your feelings (or actions) aren't justified. But, if you do get divorced, wouldn't you feel better not having those resentments?
Quote: These FF have shown me that I am not the bad guy my W brain washed me into believing.
This really struck a chord with me. My H was also speaking with 2 ffs, I read an email about a year ago that said "why is she still there if she is not contributing?" Then at the end she stated that she had to run because "she had floors to mop, laundry to do and a yard to mow." She knew all of the issues my H had with me, validated those feelings and than proceeded with all of the things she does that I don't. Not really marriage friendly. My H ended up "crossing that line" with another FF who was also making him feel justified, and like he wasn't the "bad guy."
Our situations are obvioulsy very different, but your FFs have only heard YOUR side of the story...they might get a different perspecitve if they spoke to your W.
I am sorry that you are going through this, unfortunatley not all marriages can be saved. You are the only one who know when you are ready to be done. I know that decision is not easy to make, but it sounds like you already have.
