tbone, I spent years of my young life agonizing over a R with a man who did not treat me well. No abuse, but did not give one rat's a** about my feelings. I will not do that again, but everyone has their own threshhold of how far they will go to make a M or R work. I have endured more BS after ex-bf came back to me after he and his ex-w broke up again. And yes, I took it, but my limits are so much less than before. He is too screwed up from going back over and over again with the same cheating results from his ex. I am afraid it will take years for him to heal, and I cannot help him. I did it once with him 3 years ago and only he can help himself (which he is not very good at LOL). You are still young and if you see a bright future for yourself and your kids, go for it. I hate to see people come back to this board after their dream came true to reconcile and be happy again. The hurt is so much worse the second and third go round sometimes...but as I said, only the person in the M or R knows how much they are willing to invest in regaining trust, especially after infidelity. It can happen, but the WAS has to really want to make it work and show true remorse in the end. Just be sure you are emotionally ready to move and be very upfront to your FF about it. My ex was not and the hurt was unbearable later. Take care.
