tbone, she might not change. You on the other hand can make choices that are right for you...whatever that might be. Be careful getting involved too soon, please. You really need to be in a much better emotional state, not to mention not married, to get involved. I'm not judging you at all...I got involved with a divorced man who was not ready and he went back after she begged him to reconcile post-divorce and he did. No, it didn't last, and yes, she went back doing the same things before and he is very depressed at this point that he fell for it again. He has lots and lots of healing to do now...and I am not getting involved with him until that happens, if ever. So be careful...but at this point, if anyone judges you about your decision to move on, then they don't know the hurt and devastation that you have been through. You have a life to live, you seem like a very good, dependable, responsible man and you deserve to be happy. I believe in second chances....but when they return to old, terrible, immoral habits over and over again, I cherish my life more than that. Only you can make that decision, and many people will support you on that. I've been hurt too, and I hope to God I don't hurt like that again. Same for you.
