I can so relate to your sitch. I DBed for five months (H and I still lived together but were sleeping in different rooms and barely speaking). Out of the blue he wanted to reconcile. Little did I know he had slept with another woman and wanted to reconcile because he felt guilty.
Not guilty enough though. We reconciled and I thought we were working on our marriage. His idea of working on the marriage was to cheat on me (blowjob in a parking lot) again and to carry on with this woman on the phone for months. He stopped talking to the OW when she started pressuring him for a relationship (she didn't know he was married).
I found out about the first OW last July. He begged me not to file for divorce. Said it was a huge mistake and he would never do it again (little did I know he had already done it again). Yet he continued to talk to OW2 for months after I found out about OW1.
I filed for D when OW2 showed up at my house looking for him and he confessed to cheating with her as well. He begged and pleaded with me not to file for a D but I can't live with all of the lies and having no trust. The mere fact that I had to number the OWs told me a lot.
My heart goes out to you. Its hard to make that decision even when you know its the best thing to do.
