t-bone, I remember your posts from way back, and sorry that you are going through this again. I guess it all depends on how much you can put back into repairing the M without losing yourself. I understand the trust issue and your not wanting to "snoop" again...but when the signs are there, what else can you do, especially if it is important that you know the truth and how much to believe her. My ex-bf went back to his ex-w for 2.5 years and also said he would not snoop, and he didn't...until one night he could not find her and he looked up cell phone records. It was all there in black and white. She wanted to reconcile, he fought it because of years and years of problems, but he went back anyway. They split up again the minute he found out she was out with other men on business trips. So only you can decide how much to live with. I believe if they are not sincere and keep doing the same things over and over again, you really need to examine what you want for your future. I believe in DBing, but at some point GAL and the back and forth stuff just gets old. I don't know if some ever get to the point of appreciating what they and knowing what they want. Ex-bf betrayed me also, and he has re-entered my life, but I don't trust him either. The trust issue is a killer in any R IMO. I think your W needs serious counseling, because she is throwing away something she may never get back if she continues to do the same thing over and over again. Good luck.
