Thanks for all the responses so far. I found that "clashing libido" site and I may send her there. I agree that sending her here is not a good idea.
HP - colonoscopy? What a PITA! You should tell that doc to shove his colonoscope where the sun don't shine. Oh...wait... Seriously, I hope all they find is that lost shoe from Malibu Barbie that you sat on about four months ago. I am hoping for the best for you. So, when do they hit you with the anal probe? I'll behind you all the way, and I promise, no more cracks.
Malibu Barbie.......ohmygosh, this post has me doubled over. When they put me under, I will be sure and have visions of Malibu Barbie as I drift off..that's about all Barbies are good for, imo.
They originally wanted to schedule it on my bday but I declined, even though it sounded like a really fun way to spend my birthday. So the 23rd it is.
I hope your counselor sets W straight about the fact that there are tons of 30 something women (and older) who love sex.
Yes there are, and my wife is one of them......she just forgets five minutes after! I have to practice the jedi mind trick...... 'I want to have sex now'
God is love, love is blind, Ray Charles is blind......so there.
HD's wife wrote: ----------------------- "If you know any women, who are confident that their husbands love them, who are over 30, and who want to have sex more than they currently are having it, let me know, because I don't think they exist." -----------------------
You hand that turd back to her.
"Wife, you prove to me that the women you reference DON'T exist. You know they do. Don't play games with me. I don't find your making light of a very serious issue for us, funny in the least."
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
"Wife, you prove to me that the women you reference DON'T exist. You know they do. Don't play games with me. I don't find your making light of a very serious issue for us, funny in the least."
Why are you guys still having conversations like this? After C sessions etc. those types of discussions should be old history. I know you *know* this but maybe it bears repeating.
1. Stop this irrelevant dialog. It wouldn't matter if every woman had an insatiable appetite for sex because in YOUR marriage, your spouse clearly doesn't want it that much. It wouldn't matter if every woman hated sex either because in YOUR marriage, you want more. I know you know this already.
Also, you need to end these convos in 2 seconds by saying..."It's pointless to look anywhere beyond the walls of this household. I'm sure there are women who want much more or less sex than you and I'm certain their are guys who want more or less sex than me, but the bottom line is that we are married and *I* want to ML more often than you. What do we do about it?"
2. When a group (of women for this example) get together and one mentions her "sexually needy husband whose always bugging her for more sex" usually another will validate this person's statement to either strengthen her "connection" with that person or to simply make the other person feel good and encourage her to open up more. When the others see this happening, a bandwagon effect happens and before you know it, every woman at the table has a PITA husband who is always begging for sex. I've seen this firsthand...my neighbor started trashing on a certain sex act that my W really enjoys and my W completely agrees with her. It really shocked me but I also understand and respect the privacy that my W wants to maintain about her own SL. My point in mentioning this is that it's understandable why Mrs. Hairdog would *think* that none of these women exist.
HD, I think it comes down to learning "respectful communication" and trust me, it sounds like your W needs to learn a thing or two based on your stories. You need to learn what this means to so you can enforce it. I think if you solve this problem, you will feel a million times better.
Also, it doesn't end with an increase in frequency. If the frequency picks up, you don't want to find your W claiming that women over 30 don't give BJs or something. When the communication is working, the sexual disparity puts the pressure on the right parties. Your W will hear you kindly ask to ML and she will have to face herself as she says "no" over and over again. In the end, she will be faced with her own issues and have to accept her portion of responsibility for the state of your M. Communication is key.
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Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
Isn't it just a distraction, anyway? I mean, whether or not these women exist is kind of academic. What matters is what's going on between us. When I first started pushing her about the SSM, I was determined to prove to her that she was abnormal, based on statistics worldwide. That didn't work. It seems that she's now trying to prove to me that my expectations are abnormal...so abnormal that there's not a 30 + year old woman who would oblige.
I don't want to get into a turd flinging game, ya know?
HD. Would printing edited (ex woman a age 42, M 20 years, 3 kids )copies of this sites HDW with LDH do anything for your W?
I was thinking if she could read about how some women felt being sexually starved, she might empathasize with you a little. It also should prove women have desire. HDW with LDH
