Quote: In 7 years he has only said a few things. One being....you have gained weight and it bothers me. I took this VERY offensively. BUT I have lost all of the weight. TWO....He said I am working just fine it is just you.
Based on my own experience, I would guess the fact that he is blaming you for his LD is 90% of what is making you angry. I'm not saying that you are entirely blameless in the matter but I think your H might need a wake-up reality call in this regard. Next time he blames his LD on you, you might try very calmly, cheerfully saying something like "I guess you're right. I'm just not sexually appealing and there aren't any men who would want to have sex with a woman like me.". You're more likely to destroy his defensive delusion in this way then by arguing that he's wrong.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
