Honeypot...what you said didn't appear Arseholish to me LOL. What you effectively demonstrated was setting a boundary w/consequences you were willing to back up...that's all. It's no different than my telling my H it was counseling or we wouldn't be having another anniversary today.
Talking about the issues is an important part of working on things that you cannot avoid. You cannot fix these problems without talking about them....therefore IMHO there do need to be consequences if the other party shuts you out and won't talk.
