Here are some for you:
Do you want her back? Where does the sitch stand? For example, how often do you see each other? Do you still live nearby? How is coparenting going? Other issues, like unemployment, OM?

First Question, Do I want Her back?

Honestly, I don't know. After the things that have been said and done in the last 1 1/2 years. I can Honestly say I don't know.
On one hand, I love her with all my heart and soul. Hence, the counseling for my anger issues. Not alot of men would do that for their wives. And I'm fairly certain alot of men on this BB have. Because we truly want to see our M's make it.
On the Other hand, She is not the person I married. She say's she has changed, but for me the changes have been bad. I mean the drinking increased, stopped being so responsible. Just became, IMHO, a party animal.

Second Question, Where Does the Sitch stand?

Strangely. We parted as friends, I mean the divorce was amicable. I didn't put up a fight about it. But some things that were said have me so confused. I was originally asked to move out of the house because I spoke to her parents, they were not privy to my wifes actions. She doesn't talk to her folks about intimate issues. I only went to them because they are my family to and wanted there guidance and help. Now, she wants me to keep a relationship with her parents. Why? Does she think I won't talk to them about what happened. I am a very open person, you ask-I tell. Probably not the best policy. She wants to keep a relationship with my folks, and I honestly can't see why. I mean for the last 1 1/2 years she has been completely rude to my Mother. This is how she thinks, My Mother and Father are divorced(when I was 24), my Father makes a substantial living, pulling in 6 figures a year. My Mother makes a modest income and isn't able to travel as much as my Dad. So, my mother doesn't get to see us much. When my Dad is town, my XW would stop at nothing to see him and talk to him. When my mother comes to see us she would do anything to avoid my mother, like going out to all hours of the night. She said, If my mother would visit more often like my father, she would be around more. What kind of logic is that. Make a person feel unwelcome, so they will come around more. I don't get it.

Really at this point I'm Dark, I don't particulary care to be with her or here from. Mostly because it hurts to much.
We live in a City of about 300,000 people. Consequently the 2nd worst dating city in America, and the highest divorce rate in America at 75%. Go figure.

When this initially started, We both went to see a counselor. It was mainly for my issues, but wife came along at the request of the counselor. During one of our sessions my wife made a comment about how she resented our daughter. So as far as the parenting thing is concerned, I couldn't tell you. My mother made a comment about how i seem to hold our D2 more and seem to be more of a parent to her than my XW. Could be biased, but my usually is a straight shooter when it comes to me. She knows I have a temper and can extrememly irresponsible at times. And she lets me know it.

We both worked throughout the marriage. I had a stent of unemployment that lasted 4 weeks and found a better higher paying job. XW is a probation officer.

I have some suspicions about another man, but she says she wasn't having an affair. Seems to quick to me and I did see her out with someone one afternoon. I suspect an emotional affair, I mean we were having our troubles and he just happened to listen to her and became friends. Got her at a very vulnerable time, you know how that goes. Funny thing is the guy looks like me, he's a little older and has 2 previous marriages. I guess this works to my advantage.

We have had our problems, I would like to think that they weren't any different than anybody else. Money issues, Time together, etc.

There is just so much to tell, that I would almost have to write a book.

I can honestly say I have never been this confused in my entire life.