IMHO I think she's beginning to see that you are fighting for her and you aren't giving up. Personally, I think it's beginning to sink in w/her how much you really do love her. Perhaps your persistence and man-o-steele persona is finally beginning to chip away that wall she's put up (and it could take awhile to tear down that wall).
You are doing so well...keep it up. I still believe this is going to pay-off for you. Avoiding those R talks as much as possible right now is such a good thing to do...albeit very hard I'm sure. The way I see it is this...R talks right now (because she's so hurt) give her something to dig her heels in against and resist. Avoiding those talks allows her to come to you on her own as she sees your consistency and that huge barrier of hurt starts to melt away. Not to mention...you never can tell when the OM is going to begin showing his true colors in a manner that bothers her (he may already be starting to). If you stop pushing her with R talks (which make her defensive, guilty and angry)...and he continues to push her to hurt you (to do things hurtful she knows you really don't deserve no matter what)....he might just push her right back to you....your current behavior of love and consistency is bound to begin to look more attractive than him pushing her to do things she deep down doesn't want to do.
