Her actions are absolutly normal. You will find that if you read the newcomers thread that you are in the exact same boat as most of them. Your W is not going to let you breath because that is the way she can keep her distance. You need to realize that she is confused. She isn't herself and she is trying make it easier on herself. My suggested to not talk about the R at all. That will only push her a way faster. Don't allow yourself to get mixed up in her crap. I really feel for you, I was in your spot about 2 yrs ago. No my W wasn't having an affair that she has ever said anything about. But she did lose her mind. From reading your posts they sound very similar to what my W was doing. My suggestion is to stay cool, calm, and collected.
