I'm so glad your party went off so well and that you had a good time!
There are plenty of people on this BB that I think would be such fun to get together with for a BBQ, you definitely sound like a great addition to any get-together.
As for the OM what goes around comes around, one of these days Kharma is just going to reach up and bite im in the butt! The sad thing right now is that your W is blind to what he's doing to his W....she in denial over the fact that if he's treating his W the way that he is that he'll most likely enevitably treat her the same way at some point.
I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that she'll get her head back on straight before she loses a very good thing. Because I'm telling you....there are many women out there who would love to have a guy like you in their life....but I know you love your W, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed and my thoughts positive that she's going to realize what she's doing and stop before it's too late.
I spent a wonderful Mother's day here at the house with my H and my 2-yr old (almost) son....but I couldn't help but think of you and send you a mental hug. Guess it's that protective sister in me kickin in
SD, Too late for the flat beer, it got fizzier...As you said, patience...
GEL, I am glad you had a good moms day. It is a hard day for my W, as our lack of children is brought into full light. As always, your kind words and thoughts soothe my soul.
W needs a roadmap to find her way home. I am doing my best to help her see it. "I'll keep a light on"
Quote: The sad thing right now is that your W is blind to what he's doing to his W....she in denial over the fact that if he's treating his W the way that he is that he'll most likely enevitably treat her the same way at some point.
I can’t understand why people seem to think that someone in an affair will be faithful to them. They’ve already shown beyond any shadow of a doubt that they’re willing to dump what they have if something they perceive as being better (or maybe just different) comes along. In short, anyone who will cheat with you will cheat on you.
Before H and I were married, 12 years or so ago now, I had a boyfriend and then met H. Tried to resist for a while, but finally gave in to his come ons and "schmoozing". I lasted about 3 weeks before I broke it off with my boyfriend because I could not manage that double life. It wasn't long before H broke up with me. By that time, I db'd without knowing it and just let him go, got a life and a better job, etc. Not long after that he showed up with an engagement ring.
Now I wonder if I should have just told him no back then. But I would not give up my wonderful children for anything in the world. If nothing else, I have that to thank him for.
I'm thinking I'm done dbing. Not sure I want to go back to that person I was before. I kinda like the new me. Or is it the old me? The real me?
Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.
Have you ever talked about this with him? It would seem that he has a problem with long term fidelity. I would be curious to know how he thinks he has changed vs. the guy who tried to "steal" you away from the boyfriend.
Howdy. Today was an interesting day. W got up just as I was leaving, to give me a dose of negativity. I scrambled out of here, but forgot my punchcard. I went home at lunch to get the card. (she told me she had the day off, but not until trying to act like she didn't know for sure what her schedule was) She was going through all of the bank paperwork, and was very confrontational and angry. I told her she had no right to be angry, that I should be the one getting angry. She said a number of hurtful things. She said I didn't deserve her. I said I didn't deserve the way she was treating me. She ended up saying she wished we never got married, at which point I slammed the door and left in a hurry. I don't think she is looking for a way to reconcile, I think she is still trying to make my life an ordeal, to get her D quicker. She tried to say we needed to put the house on the market right away. I told her we were not getting a D, so the house would not be going on the market any time soon.
She told me last night that she would be sleeping at her parents house on T,W,&T, due to a job that is 2+ hours from our house. She made sure to be gone when I got home from work today. This morning I asked if she was sleeping here tonight. She said she was. I asked her to call when she said she would be home and then decided not to come home. She said she didn't need to answer to me. She seems like she is losing all sense of common decency. Someone please remind me what I am fighting for.....
I am getting mighty lonely, and the work doesn't seem to be helping on that front. I hope I can make it through this mess.
Unfortunately YOU have to remind yourself what you are fighting for....and IF you want to continue to fight for it. If you still love her....you fight, if you don't then there are other paths for you to take.
GEL, I better not try to answer my question right now. I better go out and find some reasons to be happy, and then decide. I'm hanging, but by my fingertips.
