This is an EXCELLENT response to your W....""I can go on like this for a long time, because I know that I am a good person living a good life"" I'm not at all suprised she couldn't say anyting back to you....she knows you are right.
Also, as far as her refusing to answer you on the ML w/a condom, while you are perfectly justified in asking her this...her telling you is a flat-out admission of a PA, something I don't think she wants to do because then she sounds like SUCH a bad person (which she already knows she is, but saying it out loud makes it that much worse). Keep asking...asking questions like that will keep how wrong what she is doing to you in the forefront, even when she's being coached. You have your reasons for asking as you mentioned...and your W knows it.
Also...her lack of response (knowing that could be her out) is yet another sign, she's not really sure she wants out.
