GEL, What W is doing IS very rude behavior. I have always been very well mannered. Her father is the type who NEVER says please, thank you, or even good bye. W has some of these traits, but was somewhat polite. What she is doing now goes beyond rude. She finally showed up yesterday at 10:30, without calling. She started explaining herself, but I held up my hand and said, "W, save it. You know my number. If you chose to be this rude, I don't wish to talk to you right now. " She persisted for a while, and I went upstairs. I honestly believe she is being coached to be this rude, by her IC and OM. One of the things she said was " I don't know how long things can go on like this" I said, "I can go on like this for a long time, because I know that I am a good person living a good life" She said nothing.

This morning, I woke her up to ask her where she had my thermos mug. We bougt two for ourselves, and one for each of the groomsmen in our wedding (OM included) She has been using mine for years since I worked at home. She acted a bit gruff, either for the wake up or the use of mug, but who cares. As I was leaving, I peeked my head into her room again to say goodbye. We talked for a few minutes. She again apologized and said she never meant to hurt me. I again said that although she didn't "mean" to hurt me, she knew that her actions would devastate me, before she acted. She made a comment about my taking a yoga class "to meet women", I told her that I had no desire to meet other women, because I was married to her, and in a million years, I would never do such a thing to her. I told her that my vow to love her through sickness and health, richer and poorer, till death meant just that, and nothing would change that. Even if we are no longer together, I will save a special place in my heart for her, because I truly believe that we were soul mates.

Work went well today. It is nice because my friend who owns the business is not really "my boss". I deal with his manager, so there is no threat of bad feelings if things don't work out. I don't even see the friend in the course of the day. I was told by the manager that I was the best new hire he has ever dealt with. He said that new hires usually dont list until the fourth day, and don't even learn the software until the second day. I learned their listing process, listed 10 things today, and made several suggestions for changes in the new software that they are developing, as well as some layout changes for the new photo room thay are renovating. I impressed the manager by looking at their completed listings for the last month prior to work this morning. I did it for selfish reasons, because I wanted to know what the hot items were, to increase my chances of getting the weekly bonus. It was a good day, except for the horribly depressing country music. I like all music, but at this point in my life, I can't handle the country they were playing. It wa all I could do to avoid my thoughts, but then the singer would come on and tell about the woes of the lonely prarie, or whatever I told the manager I should have brought earplugs, and he siad "why, because of this depressing stuff?" He didn't even know about my sitch at that point. He changed the station, thankfully!

I went out for a brew with the guys after work. The big boss was there, and he was glad to hear that I did well, and said that he told the manager I was perfect for the job. He didn't like that I had changes for the softwere, since it is still in development, and the developer has stated that they bit off more than they could chew. My change should be simple, and would allow direct entry of the category numbers to link with ebay's system, as an alternative to navigating thhrough 5 or 6 click menus, way more expeditious.

I am hopeful that my homebrew get together works out this weekend. big boss is going to Florida, so he is out. I can be sure to count on one or two friends. I will invite the guys at my new job, since I have 10 gallons of homebrew to share. (hic)

I brought all of the leftovers of the tasty shrimp dinner to work today, and everyone was jealous as they ate their subs and frozen meals. It was a simple dish, as far as thai is concerned, Cauliflower, baby bok choi, thai eggplant, thai basil, mushrooms, onion, garlic, shrimp, red curry paste, and coconut milk. When W got home last night, she pulled out the leftovers and ate some. I asked why she didn't eat dinner since she said she was babysitting at SIL's. She said she had mac & cheese there. I said she was welcome to leftovers, but to keep her grubby mitts out of the dish I made for work (with all of the shrimp ) She is a fool for leaving me, and she is a fool for throwing her morals away in the process. Last night I told her that she is the one that has to live with herself and her choices, so she shouldn't waste her time explaining her choices to me.

Thanks for all of the support and well wishing for my new job. It saddens me to be working for so little cash, but I need to start somewhere, and clearly, my services will be appreciated at this job in short order.