That's intersesting..H and I watched "Birth" the other night as well...I was very disappointed in it. This is one movie I suspect should have stayed in book form. I liked the premise of the story, it was just far too slow for me.
Although I could certainly relate to the main character...I could only imagine how I would have reacted after my late fiancee passed away...had something like the events in the movie happened. There were several times it brought tears to my eyes.
The movie itself was just too slow for me though.
I'm glad to hear that you are pulling back. It's really hard to do what you need to do for YOU when constantly getting drug down by her. By standing up and doing what YOU need to do you are more likely to get her attention than you are pining for her