I think its harder going through a divorce when you are still best-friends with your husband. Our history.... H had an A. He left me to live with her. But one thing back-fired on him... his son (my step-son) would not go live w/him. So stepson stayed with me. During this time I Dbing all I could. I was even ML w/H. I was now the OW. Convinced that eventually he would come back to me as he constantly was the one looking for me and visiting me. H never once asked for a divorce. I guess why would he... he still had me and OW. Plus I was there caring for his son like always. So this continued for one year. Now he is looking for a new apartment as he plans to leave OW but not for me. He has found someone else. Someone that has (as he puts it) open his heart and made him do things he's never done before. He basically told me that he feels loved again and is in love w/her. She lives in another states but is more than willing to wait a year for her so they can start their lives together. So now..... he wants a divorce. He is taking his son back. And can't see why he told me all this time that he still loved me and wanted us to be together. It seems that just when we were about to possibly give our marriage another try..... a new woman comes into his life. The hurt I feel now is huge. But I do picture our life now if we were to get back together and I realize I could NEVER trust him again. I think my biggest hurt is that I NEVER imagined being a divorced woman. I married this man with all the love in my heart and I married him for good or bad. What I wonder is how do you forget the past and the promises made to each other. Plus I'm now 34 and although we both had said we wanted children, he never thought it was the right time. I feel like my prime years have been taken away and I'm left with nothing. For 6 years, I also supported his career and now that he is finally getting to be comfortable other woman are the ones being there to enjoy it. I don't care about the money, it's just that NOW is when he can afford to travel.. NOW is when he has time off to go. NOW he is the man I've been waiting for.
So I ask myself now....... what book helps you recover your dignity and helps you through a divorce.
