I initiate more, but she initiates a fair amount and I almost always say yes.
Maybe I'm too vague most of the time. We went to this same movie on Friday night...she asked me then and I accepted. I did not like it. She called after work and she asked "what theater (4 or 11) did we see the movie in? I feel like going again." I told her and she said you can go if you want. It was really offhand. I said no, I don't think so.
Since she invited me, I called after I picked up my kids and asked if she was going. She said they were already there. She didn't sound upset then. I said.."I was just going to say if you didn't go you could grab supper with us if you want". So I did leave out that initiating/pursuing part. I IM'd her before I went to bed, but assumed she was either in a group chat (she does that with other moms) or she wasn't at the computer. I didn't assume she was mad.
But it was just this morning that I realized that I'm the only one in this that wants a R. That's all.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
