Quote: "Yes, I've made all of these great changes, but b/c she doesn't notice, then it's all been for nothing -- I only really made the changes for her."
Never suggested this. I know and have said to others many, many times, this is an opportunity to make life changes, for YOURSELF. Your life has to be about what you want, not what others believe you should do.
I have No idea if she notices, NOR do I care. It is about me, now.
No, of course, I have no IDEA what she is thinking. My point, we have a perception of our interactions with people, spouses, teachers, parents, co-workers, etc and really have no idea how they perceive our interactions. We see or feel many things to be positive when the other person may see it differently. I think we see interactions as positive when I believe (and my belief only), the other people (X spouses) do not perceive the interactions as positive or negative, but simply as they are.
