As always thanks for the input. Bruce in regards to this:
Quote: I for one do NOT buy into the, "they do not know what they are doing or thinking" "alien behavior" theories. I believe the WAS is thinking clearly, probably for the first time in a long time. Their thoughts are rational and logical and decisions were a long time coming, without our knowledge or input. They wanted out of the R and M and ultimately wanted a divorce, no matter how much we perceived their hesitation.
Yeah, ultimately they wanted out of the M after careful consideration. As I said...they made the best decision they could at that point in time probably after quite a while of careful consideration. But you have to admit that they must be good actresses to make you believe that there was love etc and then the next day...blammo...no more marriage. There is absolutely no point in rehashing the why's of the D. In the mind of the majority of spouses that initiate D it's the right thing to do. I've forgiven mine for the D...she thought it was right.
To me this is solely about forming a new R with my ex. As a person I find her to be attractive and someone I like being around. I don't really care that she wanted the divorce for whatever reasons or that she currently feels that there is no chance of reconciliation. It is possible for people to change their minds...I've experienced that myself. If despite my efforts she doesn't want a R with me then that's just the way it goes.
Gabe, thanks for the suggestion.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
