Quote: It's that you assume that when she divorced you she was both rational and reasonable and carefully thought through everything. I thought it was well established that WAS run for unknown reasons, possibly due to alien abduction.
Disclaimer. The following statements are my own and will likely generate debate and disagreement.
I for one do NOT buy into the, "they do not know what they are doing or thinking" "alien behavior" theories. I believe the WAS is thinking clearly, probably for the first time in a long time. Their thoughts are rational and logical and decisions were a long time coming, without our knowledge or input. They wanted out of the R and M and ultimately wanted a divorce, no matter how much we perceived their hesitation.
I also do NOT prescribe to the, they have to divorce us to rediscover, rework, reestablish the realtionship theory.
IF they wanted to work on the M (and XW one time said her time after moving out was NOT about working on the M), they would have stayed and worked through easily (in many cases) solvable issues.
Your interactions with X are positive, as mine are; this beats the alternative. But in my mind, it really means nothing, because I believe they do not perceive what we do.
Truth be told, it is unlikely we will ever know what they X is or was thinking.
