Quote: but when we are together or talk on the phone we get along just fine. I haven't had a real argument with her in two months. She smiles and genuinely looks happy to see me, thanks me for anything I do for her, and is fairly comfortable even when we're alone together.
Of course she is. The is no R pressure. You are D. She goes home to her place and you to your house. There is none of the daily dealings of an R; no discussions or battles over finances, in-laws, laundry, kids, travel, when will you be home, why can't you help me, school, schedules, etc.
She does family time and time with you when she wants. And of course, it is good the interactions are positive, but my guess is, she views them neither as positive or negative, but simply as is.
I know I am guilty of overanalyzing every interaction with XW, no matter how small. I would believe you do the same in your situation.
Yes, it is important for those conversations and contacts to be positive, in hopes she wants to spend more time with you. But I know I was guilty of building up false expectations in my case.
The question I raise with myself is, why would she want to spend more time with me or develop an intimate R if she divorced me?
My thoughts.
I will again emphasize your interactions are far more involved and open and deal with emotional and physical issues than mine has for well over a year.
