Wes - you are right that DBing is doing what works and stop doing what doesn't work. You know the physical stuff isn't working, you also know that she wants some interaction. I know you can find the balance. It's only pursuing if the WAS perceives it as such.
You are right again that you are too impatient. I know you've not been writing your book, but how about keeping a solution journal? Something to help you discern between what works and what doesn't, and how long you've been trying something and the responses you're getting.
