"What do you think?" "How come I keep ignoring sound advice?"
Because we all think we know better; clearly we were with this person for many years and we know them and everyone else is an idiot and has no idea what we are going through or how we should live our lives.
Well, maybe they do know something. From what I read, you are both acting like two people who have no idea what they want and are not divorced.
In the year since XW moved out, we haved not gone out together, certainly have not engaged in ANY physical activity or had dinner with family. She wants nothing to do with my parents. She comes around for birthdays and such, but we do nothing that could be perceived as family or couple time. And we sure do not send emails back and forth or call each other, unless it is family related.
I confess it would be much more confusing to be in your position, not knowing what she wants or is willing to accept. The lines are clear in my case.
As difficult as it is, you are going to have to cut some ties, or you are going to continue to be confused and wonder what everything means and she still gets to play family without the work.
