Thanks for the perspective. I especially liked this:
Quote: Take it slow with her. Maybe think of her as a new female interest playing 'hard to get.' You have new rules with her now, and she'll likely inform you of those rules as she discovers/creates them. Some space/time will allow her to save face by living a little, so that when she does decide to come back to you, it won't necessarily be b/c she was wrong, but b/c you woo'ed her back.
That feels exactly right. There is a certain pride issue here and she definitely can't come back within a week after divorcing me. That would really look bad. I don't have any doubt that she likes being around me and I strongly suspect she is physically attracted. She does have the armor of "things won't be different this time around" to protect her. We'll see if with patience I can wear that down.
Just some new stuff: 1) We had a pretty fun e-mail back and forth. She said "I busted a gut. Thanks for that." E-mail hasn't been our strong suit lately so that's a plus
2) She has asked me for some pretty important favors lately. At this point I'm okay with helping her out, but these favors spare her somewhat from the full brunt of the D. I was thinking I can cut the cord completely with her gradually rather than just saying "you're on your own" That isn't me, I can't let her dangle when I know I can help.
3) She mentioned she finally got her yahoo messenger working and said that I was on her list. That can't be too bad.
4) She signed us back up for a family pass to the fitness center (and paid for it) under my last name.
Oh yeah, I was reading a short but decent book. 100 simple secrets of happy people. I like it. Give it a shot if anyone is interested.
Here's the most pressuring thing I did. I've been in the habit of saying ILY immediately after hanging up with her. Last night I said it after goodbye. Maybe she didn't hear it, but I wasn't sure she had hung up yet. Oh well...I've wanted to tell her for 4 months.
Well all....back to slowly wooing her. I personally don't think she can resist my animal magnetism.
Thanks
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
