Quote: I need a woman though to tell me how to get her to express them. It's usually so vague...like when she says "cotton-candy on the brain" or "it feels like I'm walking through deep water". I don't know what that means in terms of what she thinks of our R. It usually comes up when are R is good. I try the "what do you mean by that.", but haven't really got a good feel from her. Maybe I need a venusian translator. I think when she has cemented her thought processes that she'll come right out and tell me.
First, dude, respect the wave. It's like the cave/rubberband/whatever. You can't make her tell you anything, so don't even try. That's too controling. This was an issue I had with SO. I'd get in a weird place (wave-crashing), need some distance, and he'd follow and press me. Since I hadn't processed it yet, it would come out wrong and an argument would ensue. No pressure, dude.
If W is making comments like that when the R is good, that just means she is confused and in a fog. When she says she feels like she is walking in water, that means her efforts to move away from you are encountering some internal resistance. Just sit and do nothing. The tide is turning and she's slowing down her running. I'm sure she's feeling very confused right now, especially b/c she really seemed to be diggin' the physical encounter from a couple of days ago. Just mellow out and let her sit with that for a while.
Now, that said, stop temperature-taking. Just sit back, relax, and watch what happens.
