Wes, you might want to look at it this way regarding the ring. Only the wedding band itself is the symbol of the vows and commitment. The engagement ring is a gift of the "offer" of matrimony, not really a symbol of the marriage itself. I, too, thought very strongly about asking my now XW about giving me the rings back because she had broken her promise to me and God. I realized I really didn't want it and even if I had the diamond remounted into something for myself, it would probably continually remind me of bitterness. So, I just let it go and forgot about asking for it. I totally agree that you have to give it back in a way that is totally innocent and non-commital. Good luck and take it slowly now that you have some baby steps coming your way.
