Answer to two questions about the books...no and no. Haven't read the love lines so I don't know what the lines are. I do think I know what does it for her though. Answer to this...
Quote: I do wonder about the physical advances that you've made with w...when I read the description of them it often seems like w isn't enjoying herself...am I reading that wrong?
I've got a fair read on my wife from the physical attention standpoint. No, she does enjoy herself for the most part. She was smiling the whole time. Several examples...whatever day it was she sat on the couch next to me and I pulled her on my lap. She actually made no move to pull away, she looked into my eyes while we talked, she put her arms around my neck. While at the party she was really worried about her parents because they hadn't showed up as soon as expected and looked sad/scared. I didn't pull her down, just held my arms out and she came and sat on my lap and let me hold her. We talked a number of times where the hugging and stuff happened as a result of just being in close proximity while talking. I kept anything of more a sexual nature to a very minimum. It was mainly just lighthearted talk about that. I will be wary though that I don't overdo it.
For the most part the weekend was about her other needs. I didn't get into great detail, but we mainly talked. Some of it was about things that went wrong in the marriage in a more lighthearted way, but mainly just talking. I don't have to read the book to know my wife's thing is talking. We connect that way and that's what we mainly did this weekend.
She's also reasonably physical. From the very start we've always hugged and otherwise held each other a lot. The sitting on the lap thing we've done pretty much since we became a couple too. I can't recall even one instance throughout this where she indicated the physical intimacy stuff was smothering her.
She did verbalize what she felt about this weekend. She said "how come despite the S and pending D that we are so good together. We get along so well. Maybe we just needed the space." That was all said after a fair amount of physical stuff and propositioning. Don't think that sounds like she's put off.
I think I will read the love lines book, if only to understand what they are. Maybe my read on my wife isn't dead on.
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