Quote: XW must have under-estimated what it really took to blend families and finally decided that it was just too much effort for her
I feel that this is my STBX's problem also. I feel if it was just her that she would have worked on things, but she feels she is protecting her children. I think it is the wrong philosophy. I told her if that was her incentive to leave that she wasn't going to find it easier with someone else, even if that someone else has kids. I think she'll have to find that out for herself.
The infidelity thing was an EA with someone via e-mail...progressing to ILYs and sexual talk...yada yada. Turns out if was a woman (she thought it was a man), but by then she was madly in love and not in love with me. But, according to her that had nothing to do with why she left, etc. BLAH. Oh well, water under the bridge. Today I've started making contact with old friends again. Just catching up on other's lives. I think it'll take my mind off of things.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
